Are Fathers Necessary?

You might remember the fantastic Prager University “Make Men Masculine Again” video that we featured in our weekly Dads4Kids newsletter in 2018. It now has over 10 million views.

Recently, Dennis Prager from Prager University put out a powerful video called “Are Fathers Necessary?” Sadly, it will most likely be shadow-banned by Facebook and YouTube, as was the “Make Men Masculine” video.

George Orwell was right to say,

“There are some ideas so absurd that only an intellectual could believe them.”

Let me give you a glimpse of Dennis Prager’s dialogue to give you context for the comments I will share.

“Are fathers necessary? For all of recorded history, the need to explain why fathers are necessary would have been regarded as, well, unnecessary. It would have been like explaining why water, or air, is necessary. But we live at a time in which the obvious is routinely denied…

Barack Obama said, fathers are “critical” to the foundation of each family, that “they are teachers and coaches; they are mentors and role models; they are examples of success; and they are the men who constantly push us toward it.” What makes his comments particularly noteworthy is that Barack Obama grew up without a father. Both boys and girls need fathers.”

The comments under the video on YouTube tell the story well.

“I don’t need no man to raise no child” is like saying “I can a drive a car with my feet”. You can do it, but it doesn’t make it a good idea. – Chris Rock. ~ Ben Carrot
“My dad wasn’t there for me. I’m 22 and I still cry over his absence. He’s alive and well and we talk from time to time. But I never had that relationship with him. It messes with kids more than people seem to be able to comprehend.” ~ Krista Erykah
“My father passed away when I was 7 but before he passed, he taught me and my brothers everything he could about being a Good Man. If we had not had him in our lives or had those lessons, he taught us, my brothers and I would probably be dead or in jail.” ~ Wolf
“The fact that we are trying to explain the importance of Fathers is beyond me. This is sad.” ~ Uche Emmanuel
“Denzel Washington was right when he said if a boy doesn’t have a father in the home, he’ll find one in the street.” ~ Oleandra
“Grew up without a father. Had a void that seemed unfillable. Thankfully, married a good man and he is an excellent father. I love seeing a man operate in his rightful role. Thank you for this video. Everything you said was true.” ~ Meka Philly

The most popular comment on the feed was by Jackson Payne,

“Fathers are extremely important, just like mothers.”

This is the bleeding obvious, but for some reason some people are blind to the obvious.

Dennis Prager continues:

“There is no question that many mothers have done an excellent job raising a boy without their son’s father. But common sense alone suggests that a mother simply cannot model what a boy should be any more than a man can model to a girl what a woman should be…

But if a boy is at all difficult — as so many are — as he gets older, most mothers will find it more and more difficult to control their son: because unruly boys listen to their fathers much more than they listen to their mothers.

Which is precisely why most violent criminals grew up in fatherless homes. They obviously did not listen to their mothers.

As regards daughters, the father is the man girls learn to relate to. Without a father to relate to and bond with, there are at least two destructive consequences. First, she will not know how to choose a man wisely. She will not know how a man should treat her, and she may well end up with a man who mistreats her.

Second, to fulfill her desire to bond with a man — as primal a yearning in most women as bonding with a woman is in most men — she will go from man to man. Girls without fathers in their lives are far more likely to be sexually promiscuous, and to begin sexual activity at an earlier age, which in turn are reasons many young women are depressed…

Finally, fathers give both sons and daughters the thing children most need: a sense of safety and security. As much as children need love, they need a sense of security even more. And in general, Mums give love and Dads give security.”

Lovework

Watch the Dads4Kids Family Webinar at this link. Brian Molitor from the USA, Cindy McGarvie and Dr Allan Meyer were fantastic. The other guests contributed wonderfully too. Watch it here.

Let’s spread the news together that fathers are necessary and yes, they are of crucial importance in the lives of our children!

Yours for our Children,
Warwick Marsh

PS: Last Thursday night’s Dads4Kids Family Webinar marked the official launch of our annual Help the Children end-of-financial-year appeal. Make a tax-deductible donation here.